If you feel strongly that your break up is all a big mistake and you want to get back with your ex then eventually you will have to arrange a meeting where you will discuss getting back together. It's important that you prepare yourself for this meeting.

Prior to this meeting you need to do some soul searching. Be as unemotional as you can and think about all the reasons for the break up form both sides.

Write down the reasons that you and your ex have broken up and then think about the part you played in each of them. You need to know in what areas you are willing and able to make changes.

You need to be realistic here. You need to recognize the areas you are willing to change and those that you won't. If there is a part of your life or your behavior that contributed greatly to the break up that you are unwilling to change you need to accept this.

Now you need to be good to yourself and allow all this introspection to give you confidence. You know, that like everyone else on the face of the planet, that you have faults. You know what you are willing and able to change about yourself and what aspects of your personality are simply immutable. Allow this self knowledge to give you strength and confidence.

On the day of the meeting you have arranged with your ex give yourself plenty of time. Don't plan anything else for the day and take the day off work if necessary.

You want to look your best and feed your self with plenty of positive self-talk. You want to walk into the meeting feeling good about yourself and knowing that getting your ex back is the right thing for both of you.

Keep the conversation light and casual at first. Ask about the same things you would have when you were still together, work, books, sports, mutual friends, that sort of thing.

Don't be teary or grasping. When the time is right simply say that you know that some aspects of your personality can be less than desirable at times. Tell your ex that you have been doing a lot of thinking about your own foibles and that you realize that these things did contribute to the break up.

Do not say that you are willing to change in order to get him or her back. That will only make you look needy. Instead say that you are going to change in order to be a better person. That you are making changes in your life for your self, not for him or her. This is a critical moment. You have to appear to be strong and confident to your ex. At all costs avoid coming across as a needy, grasping person that is fit more for pity than for love.

Looking critically at yourself can be difficult. But if you can do it and emerge from this self-examination with renewed confidence in yourself and your ability to make needed changes you will certainly multiply your chances of getting your ex back into your life and you will become a better person as well.