Getting dumped isn't any fun, that's pretty much the same wherever you go. What's not the same from place to place is who manages to pull off a turn-around and gets back with his or her ex girlfriend...so what's the distinguishing factor for who succeeds and who fails? The answer is simple: it's all in the attitude.

You ever heard the phrase "attitude makes the difference?" It's a slogan for some ad campaign...an anti-bullying campaign for kids or something. The point is, it's true. Attitude makes a huge difference in whatever you're doing, and very much so when you're seeking to get your ex back.

Maintaining positivity and motivation is essential, because in brutal honesty...you have your work cut out for you. It's not easy to get your ex back. It cAN be, but there's not a whole lot of certainty I can give you without knowing your situation. Just remember that almost anything is salvageable if there's still love there. So keep your chin up, and keep these things in mind:

1) One of the most key things to redeeming a failed relationship is to take another look at why it went under, and figure out how to fix the problems that caused it. This is pretty hard, because it's all about you...you got dumped, the problems were probably with you. No offense intended, it's just the way it usually works...but keep that positive attitude with you as you work on the issues that hurt the relationship, and you'll see your chances skyrocket.

2) Rushing back into the relationship is going the right way for another heartbreak. Chances are good your ex girlfriend isn't going to want to take things too fast, and pressuring her with relationship talk is just going to drive her away. Take things easy and at her pace. Start small, like with a simple phone call. You may feel like you're giving her too much room to 'escape,' but giving her that space is vastly beneficial to your efforts.

3) After getting your ex back, you have to make sure you don't do the same idiot things to drive her away again. Relaxing on your hard self-work when you get what you want is a great way to lose what you got. And don't just think "oh, I did it once, I can get her back again." Usually after two breakups with the same person, for the same reasons, it's really difficult to coax a girl into giving it yet another try.

These are the main things to keep in mind when you're working towards getting your ex back, but of course as I said earlier your attitude is perhaps the most important! Pessimism will only hold you back and keep you from getting the motivation to succeed in your efforts to win back your ex girlfriend. Stay strong and positive, and things'll be a lot easier and a lot more likely to work out well in the end!