You can be successful in getting your ex girlfriend back if you know how to play it smart. But to greatly increase your chances of winning her back you need to know whether some of the things you are are doing right now, no matter how well intentioned, might actually be pushing your ex girlfriend away instead.

You need to take a step back right now and evaluate whether your handling of the situation so far has made it better or worse. If your emotions have been getting the best of you it might be hard to think clearly and you could be digging yourself into a deeper and deeper hole.

Now that someone that you really love and feel you need in your life has left or wants to leave you may begin to panic. Your brain shuts off and the heart takes over instead. So what makes us get so crazy when it comes to love? This panic you feel can come from the loss of control you think you are experiencing now - everything was all right with the world and you both were happy together, and now you find yourself thrown into a world of unknowns. Even if you didn't feel completely happy in the relationship it was familiar to you. Now you feel like you have to do something to regain that feeling of control and this can lead to desperation.

This feeling of desperation can cause you to exhibit the push away behaviors that make it much harder to get your ex girlfriend back. If you are arguing with her about wanting to break up or being angry with her for leaving, you will only widen the gap that's already opened between you.

And every time you beg or plead with your girlfriend to come back it will only drive her further and further away. Even if you think that if she really, really knew how much you love her and need her she would come flying back into your open arms, you may find that you have pushed your girlfriend into the open arms of another man instead.

You must understand that you just cannot attract your girlfriend back when you are being depressed, angry or extremely needy!

Or perhaps you are afraid that if you don't do something soon, if you don't show your ex girlfriend how much you care as soon as possible - it might be too late to get her back. The truth is that you will cause her to feel even more alienated and angry with you.

You really need to take a break and get a handle on your emotions, and start to get your head clear and become rational again. A brief cooling off period will give you and your ex girlfriend space to breath and take a look at what went wrong in the relationship, and it will be much easier to begin communicating effectively after there has been some time and distance between you both.

Now don't despair if you have been making the mistake of pushing instead of pulling, it's never too late! Take that step back, give it a break and use this time wisely to get yourself together and learn how to BE SMART about getting your ex girlfriend back!