This can be achieved only through continuous effort in all avenues, all aspects of the married life. One must remember the vows made at the time of wedding and it will not be a difficult road to traverse. The problems arise when there is a constant deviation from the time tested promises made at the wedding altar.

Marriage requires both partners to be committed to living with each other and for each other. They must always respect each other in various ways and try to keep the relationship as loving as possible. A clear understanding and follow up of these three aspects can keep the marriage hale and hearty.

Sharing: Both partners have to understand that marriage is a boat that has to be rowed by both partners with equanimity and due concern for each others needs and desires. If they falter in this very basic step then the boat may be rocked beyond control.

In marriage if one person starts making selfish demands on his or her partner then it will depend on the other person as to how long a leash is he or she wiling to grant the spouse. It may be that out of love and other factors such as a willingness to make the marriage work, the other partner bears the brunt of all selfish acts with a smile.

Yet this patience and sacrifice may prove detrimental to the very idea of a happy marriage. The selfish partner may take the silence of his or her partner for granted and increase the unacceptable behaviour. It can take the fun out of marriage and make things difficult for the sacrificing partner.

Marriage is about sharing love and compassion. It is about being there for each other in good times and bad. A selfish attitude, one of making excessive demands, on the partner, can ruin the marriage. It flies in the face of the basic tenets of a married life.

Sarcasm: To say that marriage is about love and compassion is not merely repeating a point but underlining a very basic tenet of married life. One gets married not simply to meet the basic needs of life but to live it along with a partner who is caring and understanding.

Some people have a very caustic tongue. They can make a person writhe with embarrassment and hurt simply by the usage of their words. In marriage one may tend to take his or her partner for granted and pass unacceptable comments.

Such kind of talk may be unavoidable at points but to make a habit out of it is to definitely put a highly negative strain on the relationship. This kind of behaviour bodes ill for a happy married life. All effort should be made to restrain oneself from such attitudes.

Both the partners must learn to respect each other and take as many joint decisions as possible. One must not make it a habit to be judgemental on the actions of his or her spouse. Passing sarcastic or disrespectful judgements and comments on every action of the partner goes against the grain of married life.

Sarcasm can be kept for other people. For those who bode us ill. In the marriage it has no place. Marriage is meant for crooning lovingly into the partner’s ears. If one does not wish to be overly romantic then too passing appreciative and positive comments is more of the way of moving in a married life than otherwise.

Anger: Anger is an emotion that is best kept under control in all circumstances. In anger one tends to say and do things which can cause immense hurt to the other individual and words once spoken cannot be taken back.

In any relationship a calm and composed outlook is important for its healthy continuation. While in a fit of anger, one may not realise what one is speaking or doing. Any later regrets may modify the harm done but are unlikely to completely mitigate the effects of the words and actions.

In the course of marriage there may be several occasions when one gets into a disagreement with his or her partner. The way out is a simple sitting across the table to discuss the matter. If one of the two partners becomes hyper evocative on the issues at hand and begins shouting etc, then the best course to follow will be to avoid further discussion at that point of time. Both the partners can later sit together and try to resolve their differences. Shouts and outbursts of caustic criticism are not the way out.