After an unwanted break up it's easy to be angry with yourself, your ex and anyone that you feel contributed to the break up or interfered. To have the best possible chance of getting your ex back you need to eliminate or at least control this anger and any other negative emotions you may be feeling like jealousy

Allowing yourself to be overcome by anger and jealousy will only do you harm.

Angry people do stupid, harmful things that could put paid to any chance you have getting your ex back.

So now, before you make any attempt to get your ex back you must calm yourself.

You may find this difficult. The running dialog that most of us have in out minds is not always easy to control. Try these simple techniques to get your thoughts under control.

Don't give negative thoughts any room

This may sound simplistic, but it works. Refuse to give in to negative thoughts. As they enter your mind just gently usher them right out again. Don't give them any room in your mind. After a time they will start to disappear.

Prayer Can Calm Your Thoughts

It's my belief that prayer will do nothing to help you win the lottery, but it will help you to deal with emotional problems. Speak gently and persistently to whatever power you believe in and ask for help in keeping anger at bay.

Try Meditation

Try thinking no thoughts at all. Sit quietly and let any thought that enter your mind simply flow out again. Practice this and it can be very calming.

Try Exercise

Vigorous walking, running, squash, racquetball, swimming, any activity that raises your heart rate and requires some concentration will help you calm your mind and keep angry thoughts at bay. If you work up a good sweat it's bound to help you sleep at night as well.

To have the best possible chance of getting your ex back you need to be in good emotional shape. If you are angry and needy your ex won't want to be with you and neither will anyone else. Take control of your thought and you are taking the first necessary step toward getting your ex back into your life.