I bet you probably already knew how hard it is to go through a breakup. That's pretty much a rule of the world that most people know. Something you may NOT know is that you can put an end to all that breakup pain by following a few easy steps for getting back your ex. Interested? Read on!

There may really be a lot involved in getting back your ex, but I've come up with a way to break it down into a few "chunks" that make it a bit easier to swallow. Some chunks are kinda big, but if you really stick to it, you can get your life back on track easier than you think.

Step 1: Your first impulse directly after the breakup is usually to plague your ex with what I call the "take me back -attack." This is a BAD IDEA. Your ex will NOT want to talk to you right now, it's still too painful. Give the poor person some space, and frankly you could use it too.

Step 2: Take advantage of the downtime to work on the things you did or didn't do that contributed to the breakup. Every couple has flaws equally divided, but the person who gets broken up with usually has more. These things have to be addressed and dealt with, or else you can't expect anything better from new relationships than the fate of the old one. Make the necessary changes. Yeah, this is the main chunk that's bigger than the others, but it's important.

Step 3: Once enough time has passed, and you're well on your way to "flawlessness," you can go ahead and make contact again with your ex. Remember to keep it very light and simple, just a phone call or email message to see how he/she's been doing. You don't want to charge right in with the "please come back" attack, for the same reasons as in Step 1. Just take it slow.

Step 4: If the first contacts work out, you'll probably slowly start spending more time with each other. During these occasions, don't be aggressive...just do things with your ex that you both used to really enjoy. This is great for rekindling old memories and feelings. Second, use this time to let the work you've been doing on yourself speak for itself.

Step 5: If all the things you've done have worked out, and you manage to impress your ex and achieve a second chance at making the relationship work, now comes a very essential part of it all. If you get your ex back, you have to KEEP him/her. You have to stick to the changes you've made in yourself. If you just let it all hang out again, you'll lose him/her again...and this time you may not be able to get your ex back.

In any relationship, there's a lot of give-and-take. That's just how it works whenever there are two people involved. Sacrifice and compromise are a part of the natural order of relationships. Remember to make sure your partner is getting what's needed from your relationship, because if another breakup happens...it's probably going to be permanent this time.