Most of the time when your girlfriend dumps you...it's not her, it's you. Guys, we're some of the dumbest oafs around when it comes to relationships, and we're always doing SOMETHING wrong. Girls may not be the easiest creatures to understand, and relationships with them can be a bit difficult to manage...but really if you can figure out your problems you can solve them.

And that's where I come in. Due to my own personal experiences, I've become rather well-versed in the many things that we idiots can do to really tick off our lovely ladies and make them want to strangle us but settle for leaving us. I am here to help you avoid the gravest mistakes or fix the ones you've made, by providing this "for-men-by-men" guide to not making your woman leave you...or murder you.

1) Number one thing that women hate about guys is that they just don't pay attention to their ladies. Sure she talks a lot, but it's USUALLY a good idea to listen to her. Even if she's talking about things that make absolutely no sense to you, you need to pay attention to her and act like you understand. If she doesn't get constant attention when she's speaking, somehow you don't love her.

NOT paying constant attention to them makes them think we don't love them, but when we DO pay constant attention to them they start acting like we're freaks. There IS a happy medium somewhere in there, but the exact level varies for each girl. Best solution here is to simply listen to her and figure out what she specifically needs, attention-wise.

2) Women have a term they use that as far as I can tell doesn't really mean much. The term is "emotionally supportive," and as best as I can cipher it basically refers to a man who can read women's minds and know exactly what they want you to do or say at all the right times to make her feel loved. Basically they need a guy who listens well enough to know her as well as she knows herself.

There are a few lucky guys out there who come by this naturally, and those are the guys who have "game." Women naturally love these fellas, because the boys naturally understand the women and what makes them happy. What to say, what to do...it varies from woman to woman, and only astute observation and attention paid to detail can make up for a lack of natural talent here.

3) Women really kinda hate it when guys cheat on them, even if some of these same girls would gladly cheat on their guys. Of course we all realize this is a no-no, and wouldn't be too happy if our girls cheated on us...but sometimes we either have a momentary lapse of stupidity, or we don't realize what exactly constitutes "cheating" in the female mind.

You don't have to have sex with another woman to be "cheating." A lot of the time all it takes is a single look of appreciation at another woman's finer physical "assets" for your girlfriend to take offense. Even fantasies about pornstars or celebrities can be a no-no, it just depends on the girlfriend. Best and safest bet is to forget that other girls exist, and think like they're just other guys who look different.

4) When you're living with a woman, helping around the house can become a sore point...she expects you to do it, and you don't want to. I understand not wanting to get up and clean stuff or take out the trash, but you have to really consider whether or not it's worth ticking your girlfriend off. Take my advice...just get up off your lazy butt and do a few chores.

So how does this help you if you've already broken up with her? Well, once you can identify the things you've done wrong in the past, you can start working to avoid doing them in the future. Whether it's with your now-ex-girlfriend or with a new woman, you'll be much less likely to make her leave again if you can keep from making these idiot classic "guy" blunders.