A breakup is a rotten thing for anyone to have to go through, but you don't have to despair about it. Even when it seems like things are unravelling with the one your love, rest assured that it is indeed possible to pull it back together...and I can help you do that!

I've consolidated all of the various things involved in the reunion process into three simple-to-understand stages. Each one has a fair amount involved with it, but I'll do my best to convey the idea as completely as possible.

Stage 1 - Sever Contact With Your Ex: This may not seem like what you'd logically want to do to start on the path to get your ex back, but it's the best idea none the less. Break off contact with your ex; leave him/her alone for a while and use the time while he/she is recuperating to do some regrouping yourself.

Nine out of ten relationships end because the person leaving the other wasn't getting everything he/she needed. Sometimes that need can even be freedom from a particular nasty habit of his/her partner's, but usually it's something a little more integral. What that means for you is that if your partner left you you've got some work to do on yourself. You're responsible for your ex leaving you, so you need to sit down and figure out exactly what went wrong and more than that how to fix it. Make whatever sacrifices or compromises you deem necessary...but know that skimping on the self-work is just going to make things worse.

Stage 2 - Reestablish Contact With Your Ex: The time it'll take to do the analysis/self-work part of the first stage should be sufficient to where upon finishing it or at least getting it well underway, the timing should be fairly appropriate for making contact again. First contact should be very light; a phone call or email asking how he/she is doing should suffice. DO NOT broach the subject of getting back together yet.

If that went without conflict, it's probably all good to go ahead and slowly build contact back up with the odd phone call or email here and again. Don't push things too quickly, or you'll drive your ex away, but take things slowly and you'll probably end up spending some decent time together. Use the times you're with each other to passively remind your ex of how great the two of you used to fit, by doing things the both of you always enjoyed as a couple. The memories combined with the new and improved you should really soften up your ex to the idea of reuniting and possibly even make it be his/her idea.

Stage 3 - Keeping Your Ex: If all this works and you get back together (if you did it right, the odds are in your favor), you have to do your best to KEEP your ex again. You can't revert to your old ways that caused the breakup in the first place, or else it'll end again...and getting back together twice is a lot tougher than just once. Keep the changes you've made to yourself...it'll see you through some tough times.

Always remember when you're using this method that it's based entirely on fixing the source of your problems and passive techniques to get your ex back. You won't get very far unless you make sure you've solved your problems outright, and aren't being too aggressive in your pursuit of your ex. If at all possible, getting back together should be your ex's idea, not yours. So keep that in mind, and make sure you don't ruin your chances with the one you love.